About three years ago, I was sitting in our living room, reading the book, Love and Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs, and becoming more convicted with every chapter. The book's theme comes from Ephesians 5:33, "Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband (NIV)." Although I was familiar with that passage of Scripture and thought I was a good wife, I realized that I had not been doing a good job of showing respect to my husband.
As I was reading about love best motivating women and respect most powerfully motivating men, my husband walked into the room and asked what I was reading. When I told him it was about how wives need to respect their husbands, he snorted, saying, "You don't respect me at all." I tried to argue with that, but he just turned on the television. I walked over and turned off the TV, saying, "I'm sorry you feel that way. I want to change. Can't we talk about this?" He looked at me with what seemed like scorn and said, "What's to talk about? You haven't respected me during 22 years of marriage, Alexandra, and you just disrespected me by turning off the television. You’ll never change."
Well, that hurt. He clicked on the TV again, and I realized that while he hadn't been feeling respect from me, I hadn't exactly been feeling the love from him either. Since Eggerichs asserted that love and respect are the two key ingredients for a successful marriage, I feared for our marriage. I decided that I needed to start by showing respect for my husband and proving that I could change. First, I finished the Love and Respect book. Next, I studied all the Bible passages the book referred to, coming to the conclusion that what God wants for me goes beyond a simple respectful courtesy towards my husband; what God requires is a willingness to submit to my husband as my leader. After confessing my sin to God and asking for His help to change, I started looking online for practical helps in demonstrating respect and submission. Eventually, my search led me to a Christian Domestic Discipline website, where my eyes bugged out and my mouth gaped open as I read about wives who even submitted to being spanked by their husbands.
Thus began my journey into Domestic Discipline.
Alex
http://loveandrespect.com/
Alex,
ReplyDeleteSounds like you are off to a great start with your blog. You are so much farther along on your journey than I am and I have much to learn from you. May God bless you as you seek to honor your husband.
Kady
Welcome to the blogging world! I hope that you find it a sufficient outlet as you continue on your journey.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Kady. We're learning from each other. One of the things I'm most thankful this Thanksgiving is for the Lord bringing you into my life. You are such a good friend.
ReplyDeleteB'Man, thanks for the welcome and good wishes. You and Sugar are blogging inspirations for me.
Alex
welcome to the blogging world; there are some really nice people here. Enjoy your lifestyle the intamcy and joy that comes with it and the amazing relationship between you and your husband. It is well worth it!
ReplyDeleteAlexandra, Welcome to blogging, I loved your first post. I read that same book right before I starting blogging. It's probably time for me to re-read it. Good luck on your journey and I look forward to reading more.
ReplyDeleteAlly
I have always believed that the moment a bride says "I do", at the altar, it is the bridegrooms's duty to raise his bride's white wedding dress waist high, take down her bloomers to around her ankles, and spank her bare bottom blushing red. This spanking should be repeated once, or twice a day, in order for the happy couple to know who is master of the house.
ReplyDeletewow. powerful and thought provoking. I will be interested to hear/read how it works out for you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for taking time to comment, everyone. We had a serious DD crisis here shortly after I posted this, but we've made it through. I'll be posting soon.
ReplyDeleteI know I'm way behind, but I just found this. I loved it! It was great, you are a wonderful writer.
ReplyDeleteGood luck on your journey! =)